Hope For Your Broken Heart
Some people tell me that after their heart has been broken, they can’t eat, they can’t sleep, and their grades start dropping. It’s not an easy journey to move from a broken heart to healing, but it is possible, and it is necessary. You will need to take some hard steps of putting the hurt behind you so you can get on with the rest of your life. I hate to see you suffer, so here are a few tips for moving forward after a broken heart.
5 Ways to Move Ahead
1. Let go of mementos. If you’ve been dating someone a while, you no doubt have collected items that remind you of the one who left you behind. When you were still dating that person, these mementos meant the world to you and had a powerful impact on your emotions. But now, these same mementos only work to break your heart.
These include things like pictures, rings, pillows, music, clothes, etc. Hanging on to reminders of the relationship will get in the way of moving on. Get rid of them. This can be hard to do because there is something very final about throwing them away. You are finally admitting to yourself, “It’s over. It’s truly over.” This is an important step to take.
2. Keep yourself busy by giving to others. When you were dating, you spent hours and hours with your special someone who has broken your heart. Now you have all this time on your hands. People who get over broken hearts find ways to fill that time with something positive. For example, you might want to get to know your friends again. Hanging out with them will help remind you of the good old days before your ex. Or you can get involved in helping organizations like Big Brothers/Big Sisters or volunteer somewhere else. Filling your time with positive activities will both help distract you and help you feel good again
3. Take care of yourself physically. It is very difficult to overcome a broken heart when you don’t feel good physically. Not feeling well only adds to your depression. When people have their hearts broken, people either tend to quit eating or begin overeating. Sometimes they try to self-medicate through drugs or alcohol. None of this works and usually makes matters far worse.
When we eat right, we have more energy, more endurance, and less mood swings. Getting good exercise actually triggers chemicals in our brain helping to lift our mood. Have a friend to encourage you to exercise and eat right. Soon you will be feeling better, even if you’re not sure why.
4. Realize it’s mostly about you, not your ex. Any event in our lives is just that an event. The issue comes down to how we interpret that event. Two people going through the same type of break-up can interpret it and respond to it very differently. So, in the end, it comes down to whether you are going to allow this break-up to make you stronger or stay a victim. It’s no longer about the ex and how horrible they were or what they did. At some point it becomes mostly about you and whether or not you decide to move on.
5. Move on. Finally, that moment comes. Sometimes it creeps up on you. Other times, it’s like a light bulb goes on in your heart and you say to yourself, “It’s time for me to move on. I’m not going to die. The sun will come up tomorrow and I feel myself learning to live without the other person. In fact, I can go a whole day without thinking of him/her.” When that happens, it’s an awesome thing. There’s nothing quite like the realization you have decided to move on.
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Can i go to other places to keep me calm, because if i stay in the same city i feel like i will never be calm, but all my friends say that i need to deal with it, and don't run.. But all i want is to take time for my self to heal and to open new life
Hi..iam so heartbroken,,my boyfriend of 10 years broke up with me becuse i didnt think it was ok for him to invite his ex to a get together at his brothers home while we were house sitting there,,,He said ,,hey,,lets invite some friends over and cook out,,,i said,ok..i was busy doing things and looking forward to seeing friends when he said to me,,hey,,i just talked to Sue and she doesnt have to do,,,shes coming over and bringing a girlfriend along,,,,Well,,just last year while he was at a motorcycle event in Maryland,,she called him and said she didnt have anything to do could she join him? He said ,,yes,,so she drives 250 miles one way to stay with just a friend! Really?? He says they had sex twice but,,,they are only friends,,,so,,i beleived him,,,she says hi to me when we run into each other and she is a nice person ,,i didnt mind them textin once in awhile and sayin hi.. But to me,,Rick knew i didnt like that she followed him to the shore and i was uncomfortable about it,,,so,he says he has lots of women for friends,,and if i dont like it,,thats to bad because shes always gonna be his friend and we should stop seeing each other,,To me,,it was ok for them to text and talk,,but i feel he didnt have to invite her and her friend to the cookout,,,just felt like he wanted to see how far he could push me..am i wrong for feeling hurt and feeling like i mean nothing? I asked him if he would like it if i invited my ex,,,and he said he wouldnt care,,, i would of never invited a ex to a get together,,pls help and let me know what u think..many thx god bless u all:)
Hi.. these advice surely would be helpful for me to go through this tremendous pain im dealing due to my recent break up with my gf now my ex. I found out she's cheating on me and has been lying and deceiving me about us. She is having an affair and sleeping with another guy. While I'm away working overseas. I feel like my heart will explode and tears keeps flowing because of the pain. I cant sleep i cant eat cant do anything. But ill be strong and keep holding on because God is able to help me endure this temporary pain together with my family and friends. Thank you for these advices.
It will get better . I found out my boyfriend cheated on me 7 weeks ago . The best medicine ? NO CONTACT. You deserve better . The pain is still there but through hard work you can find peace and also will feel relieved that this person is rememoved . THANK GOD you didn't marry / have kids . With constant effort of no contact and this site , and the BIBLE .... and God and friends and family you will come to a point where you won't want her back if she begged on her knees BC you will see she is not worthy . She is not worth your love . .. forgiveness comes in stages but do keep reading everything you can put your hands on and also a partner is a mirror of ourselves so there must be something In you God wants to make sure He prunes . I bet you won't ever cheat on anyone huh ? It's is extremely painful and abusive behavior . You should be relieved honestly. And now you can fine tune your picker for next time and be careful to whom you give your heart to. If there are red flags .. listen . If she says she has cheated before ... run !
Hi..how are u doin?? Better i hope,,,:)
It's been 2 years since I broke up with my fiancé or should I say he dumped me. I guess it doesn't matter but I am missing him and I need to move on. I am having a hard time with this any suggestions?
It's been 10 months my ex broke up with me after cheating on me.I am still hurting and hope this pain will go away.I still think about me him every single day but today I have decided to let go and move on although I still love him a lot.
I am so heartbroken I can't sleep eat or do anything that I used to enjoy my boyfriend of 7 years has decided he is tired of my craziness so he says and chose to move out I have been supporting him for so many years everyway I can and I feel so used please help how do I let him go I just want to be happy I feel I have lost myself over time
How are you doing now? I'm going through the same thing. It's been 3 weeks, but I feel like this pain will never end.