Broken Heart
I want to blog on a subject almost every one of us at one time or another will have to face, and that is how to deal with a broken heart. On my radio show, Dawson McAllister Live, the number one topic people want to talk about is how to get over a heartbreak with their boyfriend/girlfriend or how to win back their bf/gf.
15 Practical Steps to Help You Get Over Heartbreak
If you haven't had a broken heart yet, you will someday. Maybe you will be able to go through the dating relationships until you find the right one without getting hurt. But in the end, someday someone might break your heart. Maybe one of your children or someone else in your family. If you have the capacity to love, and I'm sure you do, then you also have the capacity to be hurt. Specifically, let's talk about a broken heart caused by a bf/gf. So, what causes a broken heart?
Your Heart is Broken When...
- You find out your bf/gf is cheating on you with your best friend.
- That sick feeling you feel when your bf/gf becomes more and more distant, and you know something is wrong.
- That frustration and hurt you feel when the fights with your bf/gf become more frequent and more destructive.
- The lightning bolt shock that takes your breath away when the person you love tells you they don't want to date you anymore.
- The humiliating feeling that comes over you when you hear the one you love to say, "Let's just be friends."
But the question remains, what can you do to fix or mend a broken heart? While it's hard to define what a broken heart is, everyone knows what it feels like when they have one. This blog series could end up being one of the most meaningful series you have ever read. I hope so because I don't want you to suffer any more pain than you absolutely have to.
If you follow the advice, I will be giving you, I'm convinced you will heal much quicker. Let me prepare you for this series. I'm going to list for you the Top 15 things you can do to help heal a broken heart and next week explain what each one means.
15 Ways to Get Over a Broken Heart
1. Take heart, you will get through this.
2. Talk to someone who cares.
3. Allow yourself to be human and feel the pain.
4. Immediately take your broken heart to God.
5. Give yourself time to heal.
6. Learn lessons from the experience.
7. Be careful…don’t date destructive people to begin with.
8. Don’t overreact and embarrass yourself.
9. Don’t overanalyze.
10. Don’t go into rebound dating.
11. Let go of mementos.
12. Keep yourself busy by giving to others.
13. Take Care of yourself physically.
14. It’s mostly about you, not your ex.
15. Move on
I’m going to break this list down into manageable sections so we can dive deeper into each of these 15 points.
I want to look at the healing process, moving forward, & things to avoid for a broken heart.
Hi,I am so heartbroken and sad.My partner left me after 6 years together,I am crushed and so sad.I can't cope with all of this.He left saying that he needed his freedom back,but it was after a discussion about his family.He was so in love with me I don't understand how can dump me like an old rag.He was loving and supportive and I was loving and supportive towards him.Yesterday he brought back my clothes,and he hugged and kissed me,telling me that he cares for me deeply.I know he still loves me but I don't understand why did he leave me like that.I wish I could just die....I can't take no more of this pain,my heart hurts,I can't sleep or eat,I can't function properly.I feel so stupid at the way I feel.I am a 48 year old woman and acting like a teenager.He is 54 and I miss him.
I wish someone would erase him from my memory and heart.
Sorry for ranting.
I feel your pain dear and I hope you gain your strength soon. God will walk you though all that and you will make it...
I have been divorced since 2011, we reconciled late 2012 and I allowed her to move back in (big mistake), in hindsight, I should have taken steps with a counselor to set boundaries and prepare for the reconciliation process. Four months ago we split up again and now she has a new boyfriend, I ran into them while collecting the offering at church, and again at the gym. Oh my gosh, I was crushed. After being together for nearly 30 years seeing her with another man rocked my world. It's been a few weeks, I am getting counseling at my church to deal with this, working on myself both spiritually and physically. Recently her sister passed away, she asked me to watch her dog and drive her to the airport, I did not hesitate, she asks me to wash some dirty dishes she had in her sink, I did it. When I got her dog, he needed to be groomed so I spend the money and had him cleaned up for her. When she got back I drove the dog back to her, plus during these two weeks I worked like heck to get these extra pounds off of me (hoping she would want me back), well, we had a brief conversation, and the she politely told me that I had to leave because her boyfriend was coming over....wow, I was stunned! I got mad, traded a few angry emails with her, blocked her phone, and then I said I was done with her. I spoke to my pastor, he straightened me out, I apologized to her, unblocked her phone (we do have a son together). She said she accepted my apology, I just told her that I could not be friends with her right now, I am changing gyms in June, I even thought about changing churches but I can't do that, I love my church. This has been very hard for me, I think I am doing the right thing, I do want to jump into dating but I know it's too early. I am going to remove myself off the dating sites and focus on my career and this weight loss. I wouldn't wish this on anyone... I have learned a lot, thanks for reading and God bless you! Your prayers are appreciated....
Paul
Wishing you luck I'm hurting and he is sleep rite next to me im stuck
I really can't over this my boyfriend broke up with me because a frnd visited me and I did not tell him about it I don't know the If there is more attached to this I can't slip,eat or live a proper life have loved only this guy for years I kept calling but he is not even talking my calls again,blocked me on social media I can't reach him again.
He packed his bags and walked out tonight. 19 years of marriage. I'm not sure why. He said he's not interested enough to try. I did not see this coming! I do not feel hurt. Just crippling fear. God please give me the strength to get through the night. Please Lord just one minute at a time. I Thank you in advance for all the blessings that you will give. Wow! I actually do feel a little better already!
Hi Sherry, you are not alone, I'm going through the same thing. The girl who told me "your the best thing that ever happened to me " for 9 years gave me the speech with no chance to talk about it. Only 3 weeks into this I'm still working my way through the stages of fear, grief and loss. I take something to help me sleep but, but waking up in the morning is a shock
knowing this is not a dream but really happening. I have been doing a lot of reading online for inspiration and understanding and found this site. I hope time will allow us to heal and make good choices.
I am broken but i am proud to say im done for crying acceptance is the best medicine letting go is the hardest way but that the only way for you to heal
Reading everyone's stories makes me feel better and worse at the same time. I'm just waiting for the pain to pass. Technology only prolongs the agony. in the past, if your relationship ended you'd go your separate ways and except for random meetings here and there, you'd be out of each other's lives. Yes, you would still need to excersise restraint, but not to the degree that you need to today. It's a Herculean feat to stop yourself from emailing, texting, checking FB....all the things that only bring crushing pain and disappointment every time you give in to your flesh and reach out in weakness. I don't know what happened in my case. It's so bizarre and silly, won't even bother laying it out. Long story short, my 30 year dream and fantasy has come to a nightmarish end. And the worst part is that this guy won't even "end" it. He just keeps ignoring my attempts at conversation and communication (via email), but insists on sending me silly questions and demanding stories about my past life. instead of stopping he continues on even though he knows he's hurting me. He turned out to be a huge let down....but it still hurts nonetheless. I'm just waiting for the pain to pass. It's been almost six months now. And oh yeah, this is the second time in this lifetime that this person has broken my heart. Can anyone tell me how long this wifi go on?
Right there with you Sonya, going through the same thing, just trusting God and trying to embrace the pain. I will keep you in my prayers....we'll make it!