1. Do You Truly Hate Yourself?
Self-hate is a dark, black hole in our soul that can be easy to fall into, but difficult to get out of. Last week I wrote about some of the reasons why people hate themselves. I want to give you some things to do when you feel like you hate yourself and you say things like, "I hate myself, I'm no good, I'm so stupid, or I'm worthless."
The truth is you are NONE of those things. But it's easy to think you are, especially if you have been believing all these negative thoughts about yourself.
So, what do you do to climb out of the dark hole in your soul?
2. Decide what you want to change about yourself
Nobody can make you love you other than you! It's your responsibility to rearrange your thinking away from all the negative stuff you've been thinking and think more positive thoughts about yourself. It's often been said, "If I think better, I will act better. And if I act better, I will feel better."
Cody wrote: I've found that sometimes our greatest enemy is ourselves. And the way we think can hurt worse than any words. And when left with nothing but your own thoughts, and if those thoughts are negative, self-hate is born.
It takes a real effort to turn negative self-defeating thoughts into positive life-changing ones. But try it! And if you stick with it, you soon will see you're feeling better about yourself.
If you don't like something about yourself that you can actually change, start to do that today.
3. Figure out what you CAN change and do it!
IF you hate yourself, is there a specific thing that you hate? If you don't like something about yourself that you can actually change, start to do that today. Maybe you don't like your weight you can start eating properly and getting exercise TODAY! Get involved with a sport or a favorite hobby. You'll be amazed by how good it makes you feel to take care of yourself.
Don't obsess over what you think are your flaws. Work on what you can change and ask God to help you accept the rest. Create the healthy life you desire (and deserve!) some people get trapped living miserable lives, not realizing they have the ability to change their situation. Don't get stuck in that trap!
4. Build up your self-esteem by making a list of your 10 best qualities:
Can't think of 10? There are more than you think but try starting with one. For example, I am a loyal friend or I care about others, or I am in touch with how I feel, or I have a lot to offer my friends, or I am a good listener, etc.
Find out what your friends and family value about you. You might be surprised to find out what the people who love you see in you! As you begin to dwell on the good things you offer, your confidence will grow.
Others will take note of it because you will have made yourself more attractive.
Betsy wrote: Since I stood up for something, people started to respect me and I was able to find confidence in myself. You can't please everyone, so focus on making yourself proud before you expect anyone else to be proud of you.
Each day, find something to do that makes you feel proud of yourself. Discover the things you love, try new things, go to new places. Make some short-term and long-term goals.
Decide that you will never say the words, "I Hate Myself" ever again. Those words are toxic. Why hate yourself? When in reality there is a lot in you worth loving.
5. Use gratitude as a weapon against self-hatred
You will find people who dwell on the positive things in their life...things for which they are grateful, are usually much happier than those who don't.
Negative thoughts, mixed with worry, make a person miserable to live with.
So, if you are tired of hearing the same old, negative thoughts, make a daily list of the things you are grateful for, and you'll be surprised at how quickly your attitude begins to change.
Challenge yourself to reflect each day for just a minute or two about what you feel grateful for that day...maybe it was delicious pancakes for breakfast, a smile from a friend, nice weather, could be something as simple as the color of the grass, or a good grade on a quiz. It doesn't have to be what you know you should be thankful for, but something that you actually feel grateful for.
Remember God loves you
The most powerful way to overcome self-hate is to focus on God's love. After all, if God loves you, and He does with all of your faults and hurts, it should make it easier for us to accept ourselves. Let God change what He wants to change, and you'll feel much better about your life.
God made you very unique. And it's this uniqueness that makes you special.
Please stop hating someone God loves so much. YOU!!
Angie wrote: It's very easy to find reasons to believe I am of no value to anyone, or to God. But I am of value because God loves me, even if no one else does.
As you start believing in yourself more, you'll have more good days than bad. It's easy to find the negative, so look for the positive in each situation. And most importantly, keep your faith in God this will help lead you to the happiness you seek. Please stop hating someone God loves so much. YOU!!
Don't stay in that place of self-hate, it's going to take time to change what you think about yourself but it's possible. Check out one of my other blogs about self-hate: Why Do You Hate Yourself.
And check out this blog to start to begin to change this part of your life: 6 Steps To Change Your Life.
this is terrible i forgot my swimming kit at home and everyone is laughing about me i asked my parents but they said no
my whole life i have hated myself and i never felt that i was worth anything i still do i am 18 now and i have fallen into depression 3 times i have been mentaly and emotionaly abused my whole life i have been bullied called names like stupid, idiot, fattso, ugly, and the list goes on at the time i would ignore them a bit but also believe them to and now more then ever and i grew up in a strong spiritual family but i have fallen into this hole of selfhatred and i have alway believed in God and loved Him but when ever i would feel low i would always doubt it and the majority of the time now i feel low and i have gotten to the point of suicide but i was actually close to it to but i didnt do it and i used to always wonder if God loves me and i feel like he dosent at all i feel like he ignores me hates me thinks i am a loser i feel like no one i know friends family anyone loves me at all and since the first time i thought of suicide i have been thinking about it all the time since i had just turned 17 at the time a and a lot of people always say i have found my purpose in my life and i always think i have no purpose in life unless if my purpose is the be a miserable person in life and i have thought many times God why have you abandoned me and sometimes i think after that maybe because he was never with me because i am not worth his time i dont deserve anything in life i dont deserve life itself and i have felt this for so long that i think it is true and there is no hope for me in this so called ';beautiful life'' it isnt beautiful and i feel like i am beyond help and i just want to end all the pain and the only way i know how to end it is by suicide and if i do go down that road and anyone i know that has read this i apologise
There is no hope for me!! I'm aloser falling deeper in the pit with no chance of coming back up for air.................Why bother?? no one cares anymore..they just judge me and have to always bring up all of my faults................ Oh well, what is next. Everyday is a bad day............;(((
He didn't abandon you.
Know that God loves you anyway.
Please have respect.
It is the greatest of respect to tell someone the truth!!
maybe god hates me. Equally plausible and provable
What kind of Bible proves that?
This is the English Standard Version - Romans 9:13 As it is written, “Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.”
The God of the Bible definitely does hate some people for some reasons. His love is not unconditional.
Yes god hates me I'm one of them. And I give up hopefully death comes soon
M I think that too but let's both get out of this darkness together ok? I'll pray for you. I hope you feel better soon.
It is neither plausible nor provable!! That is a remnant of something that a person with a bad heart told you.
The truth is that if you were the only person on the planet, Jesus would have died just for you. There is no greater love that anyone could have for another than to lay down his life for you.
Sorry, i was being sarcastic. I tend to think that there is no god, though I don't discount the possibility entirely. But there is no "proof" that god exists, nor any proof for said god's feelings towards me. Therefore, I maintain, that god hating me is equally provable (or unprovable). Plausibility is somewhat different. I think it is more plausible that there is no god, but if there is a god, its an open question as to the plausibility of it hating or loving me, or even not caring one way or the other.
Love is something that is special. no one can love me without knowing me, or that love is false or shallow. If god loves everybody, relatively that's not special at all and thus not love. If i can be sinful, mean, rude or rotten to the core and god still loves me then that love isn't based on me as a person and nothing to feel good about. What's the point of being loved when it's not you being loved but more the fact that "god loves everybody" and there fore can't hate anybody.
Jesus died on the cross for us then asked God to forgive US, don't you think that's enough proof of how special his love is? You know God knew you before you were even born and has always loved you the way you are. Its amazing he can love billions of people in the world, but he does not because he has to but because he DOES. He can do that because he's God. "If i can be sinful, mean, rude or rotten to the core and god still loves me then that love isn't based on me as a person and nothing to feel good about" haven't you ever had someone in your life who can be annoying, or has a lot of imperfections but you still love that person? Also God would never make someone who's only pure evil, may it be a murderer, a rapist, or any other.
Oh and a famous verse: (John 3:16) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
God is love, he is also discipline, and so much more, to be loved by God is an honor, one not to be taken lightly, even though many go thru out their lifetimes ignoring this love, it is his desire that one day, they will awaken to the truth, and receive what he is so willing to give.