We live in an era of constant connectivity, so why are we also in the middle of a loneliness epidemic? Technology has brought us closer together in so many ways, but when we’re more used to staring at screens, real human connection can sometimes feel farther away than it ever has.

Loneliness in the Digital Age

The idea that loneliness and technology are connected isn’t a new one. Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok give us ways to interact with people all over the globe, but they can also feed into feelings of social isolation and poor self-esteem. The content we see on social media is curated—picked out especially to give a particular audience a particular view of our lives. We end up comparing ourselves to others and developing unrealistic expectations for what our morning routines and wardrobes should look like, and when we don’t measure up to that ideal, our self-image takes a hit and leaves us feeling disconnected from our peers, who seem to be doing so much better than us.

Technology is also so convenient for many of us that it ends up replacing face-to-face interactions. At the end of the day, text messages and emails simply aren’t the same as in-person conversations, so if that’s the only way you communicate with people, you might struggle with “digital loneliness” and a longing for deeper connection that goes beyond a phone or computer screen.

How to Tell When Being Online Is Impacting You

Loneliness and isolation are very real mental health concerns, so if you think your technology use might be causing you to feel disconnected, it’s time to pay attention. Here are some common signs that social media or excessive online activity may be putting your mental and emotional well-being at risk:

• You constantly compare your life to other people’s seemingly perfect highlight reels.
• You spend more time talking to people online than you do connecting in person, even with people you live near enough to see or hang out with.
• You feel left out or envious of others' experiences—in other words, constantly scrolling is giving you FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
• You have trouble putting your phone down, being away from your computer, or going too long without checking social media.

Do any of those sound like you? Are you also feeling lonely or isolated? It might be time to set boundaries with your tech and learn how to invest in more meaningful ways to connect with your friends and family.

Practical Steps for Cultivating Community

Coping with loneliness is painful, so give yourself some grace if you’re not sure where to start. Putting yourself out there can be scary, but you can find ways to improve your relationships and make new, more authentic ones. Here are some tips to try:

1. Make an effort to spend time with others in person. Whether it's grabbing coffee with a friend or attending a small group Bible study, face-to-face interaction nurtures deeper relationships. Use your phone to invite someone to hang out, but don’t reach for it while hanging out.

2. Don't be afraid to share your struggles and insecurities with trusted friends. Vulnerability is the foundation of authentic relationships and allows others to offer support and encouragement. Hiding behind a screen, on the other hand, doesn’t open you up to experiencing the kindness and warmth people might offer you.

3. Look for opportunities to support those around you. Acts of kindness go a long way in reminding us we’re not alone, and you might be surprised what looking up from your phone and holding the door for someone could lead to.

4. Actively participate in your local church or school communities by joining small groups, playing on sports teams, or volunteering. School programs are a great way to meet people with similar interests, and church gives you a network of people who can give you spiritual encouragement when you’re feeling isolated.

When technology is everywhere, it’s tough to know exactly how to overcome loneliness, but stepping away from your screens and spending time with people is always a move in the right direction.

Fostering Authentic Relationships Through Faith

Hebrews 10:24-25 says to "consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another." Could the Bible be any more clear about how to help with loneliness? We don’t just need each other—we need to be around each other, pursue quality time with others, and be willing to listen and encourage one another.

But it’s not all on us. God promises to help us combat loneliness, too:

Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4 (NIV)

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)

And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. Matthew 28:20 (NIV)

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9 (NIV)

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. Isaiah 43:2 (NIV)

When you feel lonely, know that you are not alone. Remind yourself of God's constant presence, unfailing love, and promise to be with us through every season of life, including times of loneliness and isolation.

Now What?

You’re reading this on either your phone or computer, which is great! Tech can be a powerful tool for accessing resources we wouldn’t have otherwise. But now that you’ve read a little about how your digital habits might be contributing to your loneliness, commit to spending some screen-free time today. Remind yourself that you are never truly alone, thanks to God’s promises, and look for ways you can nurture more genuine connections.

If you’re still looking for loneliness help or you just need someone to talk to, reach out to one of our Hope Coaches today. We’d love to use the technology of our live chat to help you feel less isolated and point you toward in-person resources that can help you, too.